22 Lies Over-Compulsive Perfectionists Believe and How Jesus can set you free

Do you struggle with idolizing what you think is the right thing versus looking to Jesus Himself to direct you on the right path? I would like to share with you today some lies versus truth that I wrote down last year in an attempt allow God to set me free from perfectionism.

Lie #1: I am a victim of fear

The truth is, we have no reason to fear. You have God Himself on your side! Don’t live in fear, live in love. Be persistent about living in love. You have not only His love, but His power and the mind of Christ on your side.


“for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” 1 Timothy 1:7 (ESV)

Lie #2: I am stuck

There is always a way forward. Don’t complain that you can’t win. Persevere through every battle to win it. God will lead you out of every valley into the high mountaintops of love and peace when you trust in Him.

“being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” -Philippians 1:6

Lie #3: Because sin is bad, I have to be terrified of making mistakes

Fear God, not the sin. Trust in Him and obey out of sheer gratitude of what He has done. Don’t be afraid; fear is from the devil. Instead, trust in Him with all your heart.

Don’t be afraid of those who want to kill your body; they cannot touch your soul. Fear only God, who can destroy both soul and body in hell.” Matthew 10:28

Lie #4: I have to be driven to make my life count

Follow Jesus to make my life count. Deny yourself, and you will gain your soul. He is the way the truth the life, over-compulsiveness is NOT the way, the truth, and the life.

“Jesus told him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me.'” John 14:16

Lie #5: I have to be perfect to win people’s admiration

Have faith in Jesus to get to perfection. Stop striving. Stop trying to please people. Jesus is the answer to your heart’s cry; He can totally satisfy you in a way that people cannot. Be His servant, and you will be truly free.


“For we speak as messengers approved by God to be entrusted with the Good News. Our purpose is to please God, not people. He alone examines the motives of our hearts.” 1 Thessalonians 2:4

Lie #6: I follow Jesus because I have to

I follow Jesus because He loves me, and, therefore, I love Him. His love was displayed on a criminal’s cross, though he was no criminal. We were the criminals, and He died in our place. This amazing love compels us to follow Him and His law of love.


“We love each other because he loved us first.”
1 John 4:19

Lie #7: I must show love to my family… or else

Jesus already loves them more than I do. We don’t need to overanalyze how to love people. His love is within our hearts, and it is something that comes naturally as we abide in Him and His love for us.

“I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.” John 15:9

Lie #8: I am not good enough

Jesus is good enough in the place of me. His righteous covers me. He’s got me covered in the blood! Trust in His righteous living within you, and you will live the life you were always meant to live.

“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” Galatians 2:20

Lie #9: When I mess up, I have to beat myself up

When I mess up, I can approach the throne of grace with confidence and receive His grace and mercy in my time of need. No need to beat yourself up. Jesus was already beaten up for you and crucified on the cross to pay the full debt of your sins.

“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:16

Lie #10: I must wipe my slate clean

Jesus’ blood is powerful enough to wipe my slate clean. I don’t need to come up with it myself. The cross makes me innocent.

“…knowing that you were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers, not with perishable things such as silver or gold, but with the precious blood of Christ, like that of a lamb without blemish or spot.” 1 Peter 1:19

Lie #11: Progress is the goal

Jesus is the goal. It’s not about getting to perfection, it’s about being perfect already through Jesus and letting Him lead you into His perfect will for your life. He is the leader, not you.

“The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.” Psalm 23:1

Lie #12: The will of the Lord is primarily painful

The will of the Lord is primarily delightful. It is good and pleasing, and it makes perfect sense. Following His will may hurt your pride, but it is worth it all. His ways are exactly what are soul is longing for.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2

Lie #13: I have to preserve my reputation

I live to please God, not people. His opinion is what matters in an eternal perspective. We will be judged by God in the end for every one of our deeds. It is important to please God out of love for Him and what He did for us on the cross.


“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10

Lie #14: The opposite sex’s opinion matters a lot to me

God’s opinions towards me is of far surpassing worth than man’s opinion towards me. Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4).

(See verse in Lie #13).

Lie #15: My feelings define me as good or bad

My feelings do not define me; they are the byproduct of being human. Don’t judhe yourself for how you feel, instead pour out your heart to God.


“Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.” Psalm 62:8

Lie #16: I am alone in social settings

In social settings, the full power and presence of God is with me! I am not alone, and my mission is to love those around me. Live intentionally.

“When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.” Isaiah 43:2

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.” Galatians 5:13

Lie #17: It’s my responsibility to stay in God’s will all the time

It’s God’s responsibility to keep me close to Him; seek Him, stay in Him, and He will do the rest. It’s not about getting to a point. It’s about staying close to Him.

“Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.” John 15:4

Lie #18: My worth depends on what I do or do not do

Jesus determines my worth; He says I’m worth it, worth his blood shed on the cross. You were expensive, but He thought you were worth the payment.

“you were bought at a price.” 1 Corinthians 6:20a

Lie #19: I must meet my standards

I need to throw out my standards and look to Jesus and be led by His Spirit. He will lead you in the way you should go.

“fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” Hebrews 12:2a

Lie #20: I don’t have enough love to give

There is enough love in God for everyone around me, including myself. Look to God and believe in His love deep in your heart, and you will be filled with Him and able to love others.

“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3:16-19

Lie #21: I am unwanted

I am wanted and sought after by God. He is the pursuer of your heart, the great initiator.


“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19

Lie #22: God’s love for me is objective

God’s love for me is personal. He loves me and he loves you with ALL His heart. Picture Jesus standing before you, and imagine how much He cares for you. Yes, dear one. He loves you THAT much.

“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17

Which of these stick out to you the most? Feel free to share below. I pray this post blesses and encourages you in your walk with Jesus.

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